Friends are like genes?

When I read the book “The Magic of Thinking BIG”, chapter 7 “Manage your environment: Go First Class”, a thought emerged into my head: friends are like genes.

When a baby was born, it is a product of genetic combinations of both the parents’. The differences between the parents’ genes will produce a brand new one. If, for example, the parents are siblings or close relatives (just for the sake of demonstration), and their children also continue to mate and give births, their children are very likely to have high risk of gene disorders. It is because doing so keeps narrowing down the gene pool or gene diversity.

I think making friends also have the same effect. If you keep making friends with the same type of people, same thoughts, same perspectives, you are narrowing down your thought pool. Making friends with different people will make you see things differently. But it’s important that you must be the one who choose which kind of thought or perspective that can add to your pool.


Today, when I was riding around the city with my girlfriend as usual, I suddenly realized an important thing and then I asked her:

Kiddie, do you remember a genius who was very poor when he was a child? He had to gather fireflies to make a lamp in order to read books [1]? And another musical genius who had volunteered to serve for free in a theater in order to practice his skills? Do you think they are great because of what they had done or because they was born great so they could do such things?

Her answer was the same as my thought. They had become great persons because they could do great things.

We sometimes look at a person who is famous because he has done wonderful things for the world and admire him for what he has done. We even dub him the word “genius”. But actually what we should respect him is the way he has become the man he is now. Maybe he has to sacrifice a lot, worked harder than anybody else to achieve greatness.

We sometimes are too lazy to do that. Michelangelo said it all:

“If you knew how much work went into it, you would not call it genius.”

P.s: another the post which fit this thought very well “Great man does what lazy people don’t.”

[1] His name is Nguyễn Hiền